dearlonda

Dear Londa,

My husband is leaving me. He says I’m insensitive to his wants and dreams and that I don’t treat him with respect. He still wants us to date each other exclusively; he thinks this will give us a fresh start or something. I kind of agree, but my friends think it’s ridiculous. But I still love my husband!–Back on the Dating Scene? Were you insensitive and disrespectful? If he’s leaving you, where is he going? A separate home in the same city? Another town, close but not convenient? Is the leave immediate, or is it conditional?  

Address these questions and then address your marriage, without your “friends.” Why would you listen to anyone who thinks your marriage isn’t worth saving?  I could see if your husband said he wanted to date other people, but he wants to date YOU and you exclusively.  

Now I can definitely understand your not wanting your husband away from home, so tell him that! But understand that your husband is indeed reaching out to you, even if it feels like he’s running away.  Find a compromise and find it fast. Perhaps separate bedrooms and regular date nights? Be creative here. Your marriage is worth it, and so are the two of you!

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